You search Psychology Today, Good Therapy, or another directory for a therapist. You know what you have been dealing with is too much and you are overwhelmed. You question yourself and if you truly need therapy. Remember, therapy is for those people that are crazy or can’t get it together. I am not that person. What will my friends say about me going to therapy? What will my family say? Will they think that I am blaming them? I can figure this out, it really isn’t that bad.
So, you have read through some profiles of different therapists in your area. Some of them seem as though they can help you, maybe. The next question is can I really afford them if they don’t take insurance? The question is can you really afford not to. We place our focus and priority on those things that really matter to us. For some, it may be getting a new outfit weekly, going out to eat daily or weekly, getting your nails and hair done weekly or biweekly, or some other thing that helps you improve your outwardly appearance and makes you feel good. The truth is your inner person has just as much value.
Next, you convince yourself to make that initial phone call or email to the potential therapist and you make the appointment.
It is not uncommon for fear to set in when making such an important appointment. This appointment is like other appointments made, whether it is a medical appointment, ob-gyn appointment, it is an important appointment. Why do we feel we have to build up the courage to meet a therapist and we don’t have to build up that same courage to meet our primary care doctor or any other specialist for the first time?
You say to yourself what are they going to think about me? Are they going to judge me? Will they tell me it is all my fault? Will they yell at me like those therapists on television? You then convince yourself you really don’t need a therapist. I can do this myself and my friends all say it really isn’t that bad. Why would I put my business out like that? I really don’t want to feel worse than when I first arrived?
You have a decision to make. You do one of the following, you no show for your first appointment or you invest in yourself and make the appointment.
Unfortunately, there is stigma attached to those things we don’t understand. Mental health is one of those things. It is important for you to research what you don’t understand and educate yourself. I welcome free 15-minute consultations if you have questions before scheduling an appointment.